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What is an Open Marriage

Life is often very funny. Those people who are not married wish to get married and, those who are already married, want something else. Humans can never really get satisfied with what they have. When you are married, all your sexual needs are met by your partner. What happens if you are not totally fulfilled? Several things will happen. The first thing is to repress it. In other words, you ignore it and pretend you do not have a problem. There are very many couples who are not happy with their sex lives but, because they feel they have no choice, they choose to bear with the situation. The other thing you can do if you are not satisfied in your marriage is get a divorce. A huge chunk of the married population has done this and, many do not regret their decision. They have opted to find other people who might suit them better. The other thing that couples do when they are not satisfied is cheat. Many men and women have been caught doing this. In this generation, cheating is no longer news and, it has become rampant.

Many of the couples, who cheat without the knowledge of their spouse, usually want a different experience and their objective is not to break their families. The other thing that couples who are married do is to recognize their problems and work on it. This does not happen very often because some husbands or wives would die to hear that they are not good in bed. This brings us to the other option which is an open marriage. An open marriage is one with couples getting their sexual satisfaction from their spouses as well as other people with their full knowledge and consent. Roughly 9% of all marriages in the United States are open. This comes with a realization that other people are necessary to fulfill the desires of relevant partners sexually. In other words, open unions can be seen as an accepted form of adultery. We are living in an age where people are governed by decisions. Whatever you choose to do, you are your own master.

Open marriages are very common in the western countries but, there are other countries which have practiced a form of open marriage for generations. For example, in villages of Africa, the Masai culture was open to a man having his way with a woman even if she is not one of his wives. This was meant to enrich the genes of progeny and maintain a strong community. Another reason was for the sheer excitement of it. Therefore, the idea of an open marital union is not new and, more and more people are becoming open to it. Popular TV shows like Oprah and Tyra Banks have been seen to highlight the topic more. When you choose to have many lovers but still maintain a marriage, it is referred to as a polyamory. An open union will have its own fair share of problems one of them being jealousy. Before you decide to try an open marriage, weigh the advantages and disadvantages and, then decide on what will suit you.

Author: Francis Githinji

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